Since I found out that Former Crush has a girlfriend, the attention I’ve been paying to him has dwindled considerably – more so for my own sanity than a desire to avoid him. I would still like to hang out, just not in any “date-like” situations. (Earlier this week, I sent him a “hope I didn’t put you in an awkward situation but I hadn’t realized you have a girlfriend” email to clear the air, to which he replied “Well, I hadn’t exactly told you I was dating someone”). He’s clearly noticed, because now he’s the one who sent me a Facebook message asking when I want to get coffee next. There really is something to the age old advice to let him do the pursuing. I chilled out, stopped caring and now he’s coming around again. In this case, it’s not necessarily the same thing as it is in a romantic relationship, but it still seems to be a fundamental part of the dance between members of the opposite sex.
{January 9, 2010}
Another note on chilling the eff out
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chilling out is a good thing, and YOU SHOULD lock your phone in the trunk more often.
Unrelated question… Do you remember how we first met? Was there a particular moment or event that started us?
It’s a little hard to lock my phone in the trunk without having a car!! We met the first day of class freshman year. How it evolved from there I’m not sure…